Wednesday, November 19, 2008

A new level of comfort

Its been unseasonably cold here in FL this week and when Ken saw the weather forcast he requested a week of soup for dinner. Monday I made Turkey Chili and last night I made this...

Why fauxtato? Because instead of potato I used cauliflower, the result? Absolutely delicious and 133 calories per serving! Of course you can read all about it over on the recipe blog.

Last week I made Chocolate Peanut Butter Cup Oatmeal and I think I forgot to tell you all about it, I know some of you found the recipe anyhow but I wanted to mention it here because I've made it several times since then and tried it with dark chocolate cocoa...OH MY! Satisfying and delicious!

When the weather turns cold I want all of my "comfort food" favorites but I've found that you can easily make over the recipes and end up with something just as delicious and comforting.


I love food and for years I've let it control my life. I've let obsessive cravings drive me to stuff my face.  I've always held tightly to the past and I know its rooted in family traditions. My Mom held on to her heritage by cooking foods that her Mom cooked. Together with her six sisters, they held on to family and traditions by gathering and sharing large meals. Dinner for 50, not a problem, invite a few friends, not a problem, there was always plenty to eat. They always stressed the importance of family and I learned that gluttonous eating was not only accepted, it was expected. If eating made you good and cleaning your plate made you better, excessive consumption made you a queen!  Don't think this was one big happy family though, dysfunction was running rampant and as soon as I was able, I moved as far away from them as I could. 

The one thing that has become very clear to me is that I've used food as a drug. I've used it to numb me, I've used it to isolate myself and I've used it to build a fortress of fat around me. Letting go should have happened when I moved away over 20 years ago. Letting go should have happened but it didn't. I continued to use the food to bury the problems and to bury the past.

Over the past year I've looked deep into my soul and I've taken the ghosts of the pasts and I've put them in their place. They had power because I gave them power. I let my fears fuel them. Fears I didn't even realize I had. I've changed, I'm stronger and aware of it now and I won't be controlled by the past nor will I be controlled by food.

Yesterday I was at the grocery store and I walked past the woman giving out samples and I walked past the favorite brownies with cream cheese frosting and I felt my body start to tense up and I told myself that those brownies aren't worth it. As I walked towards the produce department I felt a sense of calm come over me. I had looked at those brownies, acknowledged that they looked good and I kept walking. YEAH!

When I got home Sadie and Max were so happy to see me and I made a cup of tea and sat in the recliner with a blanket to warm up and watch TV, first Max jumped up with me and snuggled in and then Sadie jumped up too. Talk about comfort! No, comfort isn't always found in food.

23 comments:

  1. Holy gobstoppers - 113 calories per serving?!! Perfect, this is now on my list of recipes to try!

    Jen, a priorfatgirl
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  2. Jen it says 133...not 113 but you have to agree, 133 for a big bowl of that is certainly awesome!
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  3. Very honest post, thank you. I love how much comfort I can get from my mutts too, thanks for reminding us of the other things in life that provide happiness.
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  4. Ahhh... snuggling with two loveable dogs is WAY better than snarfing a brownie! Life doesn’t get much better than that.

    Congrats again on all your hard internal work this past year, and for sharing your journey with us.
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  5. Good for you! Soup sounds delicious.
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  6. This is a powerful post. Thanks for sharing your realization and your growth because of it. I agree that pupsters, warm blanket and a good TV show spells comfort for me too.
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  7. What a beautiful and honest post. I think a lot of women can really relate to this.

    Go you!
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  8. okkkkay so where you in my head last night or what.. sheesh... when u get a minute read my post you will appreciate it... and yes those pups are great comfort... I banished someone from my house today... when u read the post you will get it... take care.
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  9. We can call them snugglemutts! I love peoples reaction when I tell them Nora is a mutt! They look confused.. Anyway... I'm so totally trying this soup!
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  10. That looks like an awesome soup!!
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  11. that looks delicious! Anything that will fill you up for that little of calories rocks in my book :)
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  12. I had myself a nice snuggle with my cat last night, it's funny how I can be having a hard time sleeping but as soon as I pull him on the bed and start petting him, I'm super sleepy. Thanks for the post, only wish I could find cauliflower. Wonder if it woudl work with broccoli?
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  13. I think it would be delicious with broccoli Lauren, kinda like a cheesey cream of broccoli soup, maybe put in diced chicken instead of bacon or ham if you want some protein in there.
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  14. I wish I could get as creative as youwith the healthy food. Mine is all fat and high calories. Which is why I am not cooking for myself yet. I might just have to nab all of your wonderful recipes.
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  15. This is why I share what I create...10 years ago I was a terrible cook, I could boil water and microwave. I knew dinner was ready when the smoke alarm rang. I like toast burnt because I burnt it so often I think thats how toast is meant to taste...I could go on..Seriously, if I can do this, anyone can!
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  16. The soup looks absolutely delicious. I definitely have to give making that a go.

    A great post that has helped to inspire me and help me get back on track.
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  17. That soup looks like it ROCKS! Thanks :) LOVE creative use of veggies of any sort!

    There is nothing at all better than the unconditional love of puppies! FAR more comforting than any brownie will ever be. Way to go on your non scale victory :)
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  18. Hot soup on a cold day is very comforting!
    Yes, we have to look for comfort in non-food ways. There are many if we look for them.
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  19. What a great point about comfort not always being in food! I think we need to try to bring our focus to other things.

    Speaking of cauliflower soup--I have an INCREDIBLE recipe for Roasted Cauliflower curry soup from Martha Stewart. It is quite simply one of the best I've ever had. If you're interested I'll send it along to you.
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  20. what a great post! I love it :)
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  21. I have tried mock cream of cauliflower soup and LOVED it! I will have to try this fauxtato(sp?) soup a try. I'm glad that you are learning to find comfort in other things than food. That's a lesson I need to learn as well. This time of year is hard! You're doing great!
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